Are You Wondering If A Fulfilling
And Happy Relationship Is Ever Going To Be Possible For You?
We know exactly how you feel. We too wanted to experience the joy of a lasting, loving relationship, and yet the opposite happened–we both ended up divorced. We prayed that a day would come that the constant anger, sadness and guilt would end, and that we might be able to love again. It doesn’t matter what your circumstances are, the rock-bottom feeling is the rock-bottom feeling, and it’s miserable. Rock bottom for us was saturated with feelings of rejection, self-doubt, anger, frustration, hurt, guilt, disappointment, blame, shame, and the all-around misery of divorce. Chances are you have some words of your own to add to this horror show.
We didn’t intend to end up in relationship hell. But somewhere along the way, our marriages had been put on the back burner and gotten eaten alive by the pressures of work, bills, parenting, moving to a new state, changing jobs, new homes, bankruptcies, growing families and earning a C- in communications through it all. In other words we were fighting like cats and dogs, muddling our way through all sorts of arguments, misunderstandings, misinterpretations, silent treatments, pretending and so much confusion.
If You’re In Relationship Hell, You Probably Suffer From At Least Some of These Behavior Bugaboos.
Poor communication, including good old fighting like cats and dogs, yelling, refusing to talk, pretending, controlling, withholding, harboring fear and worry.
Poor listening, including unfinished sentences, interruptions, misinterpretations, rudeness, actually being told to shut up.
Unrealistic expectations of each other, or, in other words, “minding the heck out of your partner’s business.”
Controlling behavior—either telling your partner what to do, or letting your partner boss you around.
Unappreciative actions and attitudes; you basically don’t do a thing to uplift each other or the relationship; complaining about your partner.
Not enough time together—the magic is completely gone; your life together is mundane; you are doing different things on your own all the time.
An unfulfilling sex life or no sex life.
Blaming each other constantly for everything.
Difficulty agreeing on parenting styles, or putting the kids needs first all the time.
Sheer exhaustion—in body and soul you are actually too tired to do anything about your relationship problems.
Like us, you probably found more than one, right?
Each day we made our situations worse by not handling these behaviors or our feelings very well. How could we? Like most people in our shoes, we had absolutely no idea what we were doing.
Being In Relationship Hell Can Actually Be A Godsend.
Crazy as it sounds, sometimes the biggest heartache you’ll ever have can be just the wake-up call you need. Now in our Madly in Love Foreverbook we share our stories and experiences, and we hope you will be inspired to take this very moment to make sense of your pain—and take the first steps to end it. Why wait, maybe you won’t have to suffer for as long and hard as we did. We hope you see yourself and your life in our trials and tribulations, and learn from the practical messages and teachings about love, life and relationships. Let us help you get right to the crux of what it really takes to master a relationship and end the patterns that could be at the root of some of your problems.
Uproot Problematic Behaviors In Your Relationship, Stop The Pain And Start Creating Happiness.
That’s what we address in Madly in Love Forever: How to make significant changes that will strengthen, sweeten and deepen your relationship. And how to change your thinking and actions so that, day by day, you build a union that supports you and fulfills you—in all areas of life.
If you are single, you can create an openness and readiness to creating a relationship worth having.
If you are about to remarry and suspect you are pretty much still thinking and acting the way you did in your previous marriage, you can starting thinking and acting in more effective ways.
If you have been married for a long time and need some fresh air and renewal in your relationship, stick with us and see how your love gets revived.
If you are suffering too much to even know what you want, stay with us.
Don’t Live In A Messy Relationship Until You Die.
You may be saying, “Oh my gosh, that’s not what I want”. Neither did we. We all want to enjoy our lives and find our way out of, or through, hard places. Yet we were clueless about how to do that. We were stuck in a habit of making our partners wrong and feeling sorry for ourselves. If you see yourself here, you know how this can literally suck the life force right out of you. Finally, we got to a point where we could see that blaming and looking outside ourselves for something to change was ridiculous and a dead end zone. We started looking for knowledge and tools to help us figure out how to make the changes we wanted to see in our lives. We were ready for “Act Two”. Even when we realized divorce was the best way to go, we didn’t stop learning about how to be better in relationships. Because, if it’s messy with one person, most likely it will be messy with others. So it’s worth starting wherever you are right now, cleaning up your current relationship, and creating a whole new set of habits. If you immerse yourself in reading Madly in Love Forever, we show you how you can clean up the messes in your life, have more peace of mind and enjoy your relationship.
We Put The Relationship Jigsaw Puzzle Together.
Each one of us has a story. You have a story and we have our stories, and each one is completely unique. But fundamentally all our stories have similar elements, such as the tremendous desire to be loved. We suggest that you allow your story to dovetail onto our stories, as told in Madly in Love Forever. Then dare yourself to do the exercises we did and see what happens. We believe you will begin your own transformation and put your own jigsaw puzzle together. Imagine writing a whole new story! We offer a template for putting the pieces of your relationship back together, or moving on to a relationship in which that’s possible. By reading our book, you will get to connect with two people who moved from ignorance, pain and confusion to understanding, joy and freedom in their relationships by using the tools we offer. We are both people persons. So it is our joy to share with you the processes, techniques, and tips that worked for us. In our desire to master this field, we spent hundreds of hours over more than five years absorbing this knowledge in many ways by
Studying the whole field of self-help and relationship help in depth.
Attending approximately 12 relationship and self-strengthening seminars.
Participating in six weekly, ongoing men’s and women’s circles between us.
Practicing meditation for decades and attending meditation courses and spiritual retreats.
Sitting in the company of great teachers, authors and coaches, absorbing their wisdom.
Sorting out the gems of wisdom received from our parents and our different faiths.
Get Clear Directions And A Very Easy Map To Follow.
If you don’t know how to get where you want to go, that doesn’t mean you are a failure or lost forever. You just need a map or some good directions. It’s the same with relationships. You can use Madly in Love Forever as your map and follow its simple directions to move from your current situation in your relationship to a new destination, a place of greater happiness than you’ve ever known with another person. The important thing is to start now, from wherever you are, and take the first steps towards creating a better relationship. Our way of offering information and knowledge could provide just the road map you need. We simply tell you what saved our lives after divorcing, what allowed us to be happy single people, and then what enabled us to create a relationship solid in trust, openness, and freedom.
You Can Feel Free WHILE Enjoying Being Part Of A Couple.
You may be saying, “Come on, we all know that relationships make you feel trapped.” Consider this. A friend of ours was dating a man for quite a while after having gone through two divorces. One day we bumped into her in the post office. When we asked how it was going for her and her partner she said, “Oh, I’m not with him any more. I’m not with anyone. I’m free!” We understood what she meant. It can be such a huge relief to leave a relationship that isn’t working. But as we talked about it later we suddenly realized—for the first time, we both felt free and AT THE SAME TIME we were in a committed relationship! We realized that the work we had done had given us the key to feeling free while simultaneously having all the love and security of being in a relationship. We had it all! Do You?
A Book For You Filled With Simple Tools For Profound Transformation In Your Life.
That is the essence of Madly in Love Forever—simple tweaks and changes that you can make to transform yourself into a more powerful, awake individual. You will go from dreading “working on the relationship” to actually enjoying the process. No kidding! That’s possible because we provide all the tools you’ll need to make the changes you want to see. You will find the right tool for the job at hand, and we all know what a difference that makes. When you find the right size wrench or the right type of screwdriver for a task—all of a sudden it’s easy. Of course, your ability to find and use the right tool at the right time will depend on your ability to be receptive, open, and willing to try—not throwing the wrong tool across the room and declaring “nothing works.” You have to give it a chance to work. And over time it gets better…these simple tools turn into power tools the more you use them!
Madly In Love Forever Will Transform Your Life When You USE It.
You Will Learn:
How to be as steady as a rock in the ever-changing nature of relationships. (Chapter 3)
Own the most important relationship tool ever. (Chapter 3)
Three simple ways to connect the mind and body so they both work for you. (Chapter 4)
The secret of learning about yourself and how you relate to others. (Chapter 5)
The best recipe for living in freedom and loving more easily with less anger. (Chapter 6)
A consistently reliable way to find peace of mind while simultaneously loving your partner. (Chapter 7)
How to determine the absolutely best time to start dating. (Chapter 8)
How to eliminate destructive communication habits. (Chapter 9)
Become a more effective listener so people will want to be around you. (Chapter 10)
Why expectations can destroy your relationship. (Chapter 11)
How to control less and love more. (Chapter 12)
Six ways to improve your time spent together. (Chapter 14)
A 2 x 2 box to improve your sex life. (Chapter 15)
How to stop projecting your issues onto your partner. (Chapter 16)
The most overlooked document that can save a marriage. (Chapter 17)
We know that there are tons of choices. We believe that the practical and authentic teachings that we use in Madly in Love Forever will be extremely useful to you. You can learn from the many hours of “homework” we did at a time in our lives when we had both been brought to our knees by the pain of divorce. During that period we realized that blaming and becoming victimized was getting us nowhere.
What Will You Decide For Yourself Now?
We discovered that knowledge is the way out. Gaining knowledge lifts your level of consciousness and expands your awareness. When you are struggling in life, gaining deeper knowledge about yourself is often the way through to peace. And it’s a “vicious circle”: as you grow wiser, you attract more and more helpful knowledge. So, congratulations! If you’re reading this, you’ve arrived at a place where you can receive knowledge and information that can heal your heart and uplift your life immeasurably! Together let’s do what we can to make ourselves as strong as possible, in these challenging times, by diving right in and reading Madly in Love Forever.
You CAN Learn To Trust And Feel Love In Your Heart Again.
Madly in Love Forever will help you discover that there are new options for you, new choices to make. You can take advantage of the “homework assignments” we give you to develop a deeper sense of self-awareness and inner strength. As you do, you will begin to have more positive experiences. You will learn to trust yourself and others more and make decisions that serve you better. What are you deciding for yourself right now? Why continue to suffer? “You cannot discover new oceans unless you have the courage to lose sight of the shore.” —Tibetan Proverb. There is plenty to discover in Madly In Love Forever.