“No one can persuade another to change. Each of us guards a gate of change that can only be opened from the inside. We cannot open the gate of another, either by argument or by emotional appeal.” –Marilyn Ferguson. When we enter a relationship, we must accept the person as he or she is. We should not commit to a relationship based upon what we think a person can become. First of all, we do not know for sure that a person wants to change in the way that we would like him or her to change. Second, even if a person wants to change, fundamental change can be quite difficult. What you see is what you get.