In Committed, author Elizabeth Gilbert expresses the following thought. “Marriage becomes hard work once you have poured the entirety of your life’s expectations for happiness into the hands of one more person. Keeping that going is hard work.”
In our book Madly In Love Forever: A Guide to True and Lasting Love, the title of our eleventh chapter is “Letting Go Of Expectations.” Here’s a glimpse of what we have to say about expectations.
Expectations can be the end of serenity. If you go into a situation expecting something specific, most likely one of two things will happen. If things work out as expected, you’ll end up happy; if not, you’ll be angry or disappointed. Considering how often the second option happens, it’s safe to say that having expectations sets you up for a lot of suffering.
Now, having fewer expectations doesn’t mean not being optimistic about life or that you should stop goal setting; it just means you have the intention to be happy, or to be at peace, with “what is.” Being more accepting of the reality that exists and the events that occur in your life actually helps you to look on the bright side. And it’s an incredible way to be in relationship. Being at peace with “what is” opens the door for more love.