This is the second of a two-part blog. Part 1 was published 1-19-11
These principles will help you avoid The 14 Dating Traps:
8. Love Trap
Interpreting infatuation, attraction, need, good sex, or emotional attachment as love.
9. Sex Trap
Prioritizing physical intimacy and regarding everything else as optional. Your main criterion for a relationship is sexual attraction and physical compatibility. You become a couple as soon as you have sex.
10. Rescue Trap
Hoping that a relationship will solve your emotional and financial problems and bring you happiness and fulfillment; like winning the lottery.
11. Co-dependent Trap
You expect someone will love you and give you what you want by giving the other person what they want. You try to earn love and happiness by acquiescing, nurturing, giving, and helping. Needing to be needed often results in unconsciously attracting and choosing a relationship with a person who needs you but is unable to give you what you want. You really want to be in a relationship. You feel unworthy as you are, and that you need to earn love. You pursue relationships because you feel incomplete when you’re not in one.
12. Entitlement Trap
Believing you deserve to be happy and to get what you want in your life without effort or changes on your part, because you’re entitled. Your attitude toward your partner is “What can you do for me?” “Make me feel good.” “Make me happy.”
13. Virtual Reality Trap
Believe that “what you see is what you get” and seeing what you want to see instead of using actual experience and knowledge to make long-term relationship choices.
14. Lone Ranger Trap
You are focused on your goal of finding your life partner and believe that the other relationships in your life are less important and that you don’t need anyone’s help. You evaluate the people you meet for their relationship potential and don’t take the opportunity to cultivate new friends. Then, you feel isolated and believe that there’s a scarcity of potential partner
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